Is it acceptable to ask for wedding cash instead of gifts?

31 January 2016

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In many countries around the world, cash gifts for weddings are a given, but in the UK traditionally they're frowned at. If you were POLITELY asked for cash, not boxed gifts at a wedding, what’s closest to your view?

In many countries around the world, cash gifts for weddings are a given, but in the UK traditionally they're frowned at.

If you were POLITELY asked for cash, not boxed gifts at a wedding, what’s closest to your view?

Results

I'm a man aged under 25 (438 votes)

I wouldn't give anything – my presence is enough		40 votes (9%)
I think it’s rude and presumptuous – I’d buy a gift instead anyway		18 votes (4%)
I'd grudgingly give it - but I think it's impersonal		45 votes (10%)
Cash isn’t on, but I’d happily give vouchers		17 votes (4%)
Not keen, but it’s OK if for a purpose, eg, a honeymoon fund		95 votes (22%)
I’d prefer to give euros/dollars than pounds, eg, for a holiday		10 votes (2%)
I’d be relieved, giving cash is so much easier and less hassle		83 votes (19%)
Cash is the best gift - practical so they can get what they want		130 votes (30%)

I’m a woman aged under 25 (508 votes)

I wouldn't give anything – my presence is enough		9 votes (2%)
I think it’s rude and presumptuous – I’d buy a gift instead anyway		32 votes (6%)
I'd grudgingly give it - but I think it's impersonal		36 votes (7%)
Cash isn’t on, but I’d happily give vouchers		20 votes (4%)
Not keen, but it’s OK if for a purpose, eg, a honeymoon fund		120 votes (24%)
I’d prefer to give euros/dollars than pounds, eg, for a holiday		15 votes (3%)
I’d be relieved, giving cash is so much easier and less hassle		131 votes (26%)
Cash is the best gift - practical so they can get what they want		145 votes (29%)

I'm a man aged 25 to 34 (2222 votes)

I wouldn't give anything – my presence is enough		46 votes (2%)
I think it’s rude and presumptuous – I’d buy a gift instead anyway		106 votes (5%)
I'd grudgingly give it - but I think it's impersonal		163 votes (7%)
Cash isn’t on, but I’d happily give vouchers		61 votes (3%)
Not keen, but it’s OK if for a purpose, eg, a honeymoon fund		351 votes (16%)
I’d prefer to give euros/dollars than pounds, eg, for a holiday		97 votes (4%)
I’d be relieved, giving cash is so much easier and less hassle		627 votes (28%)
Cash is the best gift - practical so they can get what they want		771 votes (35%)

I’m a woman aged 25 to 34 (3261 votes)

I wouldn't give anything – my presence is enough		25 votes (1%)
I think it’s rude and presumptuous – I’d buy a gift instead anyway		227 votes (7%)
I'd grudgingly give it - but I think it's impersonal		237 votes (7%)
Cash isn’t on, but I’d happily give vouchers		112 votes (3%)
Not keen, but it’s OK if for a purpose, eg, a honeymoon fund		554 votes (17%)
I’d prefer to give euros/dollars than pounds, eg, for a holiday		153 votes (5%)
I’d be relieved, giving cash is so much easier and less hassle		921 votes (28%)
Cash is the best gift - practical so they can get what they want		1032 votes (32%)

I'm a man aged 35 to 49 (2295 votes)

I wouldn't give anything – my presence is enough		63 votes (3%)
I think it’s rude and presumptuous – I’d buy a gift instead anyway		167 votes (7%)
I'd grudgingly give it - but I think it's impersonal		191 votes (8%)
Cash isn’t on, but I’d happily give vouchers		144 votes (6%)
Not keen, but it’s OK if for a purpose, eg, a honeymoon fund		375 votes (16%)
I’d prefer to give euros/dollars than pounds, eg, for a holiday		67 votes (3%)
I’d be relieved, giving cash is so much easier and less hassle		567 votes (25%)
Cash is the best gift - practical so they can get what they want		721 votes (31%)

I’m a woman aged 35 to 49 (4314 votes)

I wouldn't give anything – my presence is enough		40 votes (1%)
I think it’s rude and presumptuous – I’d buy a gift instead anyway		399 votes (9%)
I'd grudgingly give it - but I think it's impersonal		465 votes (11%)
Cash isn’t on, but I’d happily give vouchers		331 votes (8%)
Not keen, but it’s OK if for a purpose, eg, a honeymoon fund		731 votes (17%)
I’d prefer to give euros/dollars than pounds, eg, for a holiday		117 votes (3%)
I’d be relieved, giving cash is so much easier and less hassle		1093 votes (25%)
Cash is the best gift - practical so they can get what they want		1138 votes (26%)

I'm a man aged 50 to 64 (1491 votes)

I never give gifts or cash – my presence is enough		31 votes (2%)
I think it’s rude and presumptuous – I’d buy a gift instead anyway		136 votes (9%)
I'd grudgingly give it - but I think it's impersonal		158 votes (11%)
Cash isn’t on, but I’d happily give vouchers		104 votes (7%)
Not keen, but it’s OK if for a purpose, eg, a honeymoon fund		186 votes (12%)
I’d prefer to give euros/dollars than pounds, eg, for a holiday		19 votes (1%)
I’d be relieved, giving cash is so much easier and less hassle		283 votes (19%)
Cash is the best gift - practical so they can get what they want		574 votes (38%)

I’m a woman aged 50 to 64 (3951 votes)

I wouldn't give anything – my presence is enough		21 votes (1%)
I think it’s rude and presumptuous – I’d buy a gift instead anyway		355 votes (9%)
I'd grudgingly give it - but I think it's impersonal		497 votes (13%)
Cash isn’t on, but I’d happily give vouchers		314 votes (8%)
Not keen, but it’s OK if for a purpose, eg, a honeymoon fund		537 votes (14%)
I’d prefer to give euros/dollars than pounds, eg, for a holiday		53 votes (1%)
I’d be relieved, giving cash is so much easier and less hassle		786 votes (20%)
Cash is the best gift - practical so they can get what they want		1388 votes (35%)

I'm a man aged 65+ (796 votes)

I wouldn't give anything – my presence is enough		11 votes (1%)
I think it’s rude and presumptuous – I’d buy a gift instead anyway		84 votes (11%)
I'd grudgingly give it - but I think it's impersonal		63 votes (8%)
Cash isn’t on, but I’d happily give vouchers		61 votes (8%)
Not keen, but it’s OK if for a purpose, eg, a honeymoon fund		67 votes (8%)
I’d prefer to give euros/dollars than pounds, eg, for a holiday		5 votes (1%)
I’d be relieved, giving cash is so much easier and less hassle		134 votes (17%)
Cash is the best gift - practical so they can get what they want		371 votes (47%)

I’m a woman aged 65+ (1387 votes)

I wouldn't give anything – my presence is enough		6 votes (0%)
I think it’s rude and presumptuous – I’d buy a gift instead anyway		130 votes (9%)
I'd grudgingly give it - but I think it's impersonal		165 votes (12%)
Cash isn’t on, but I’d happily give vouchers		126 votes (9%)
Not keen, but it’s OK if for a purpose, eg, a honeymoon fund		167 votes (12%)
I’d prefer to give euros/dollars than pounds, eg, for a holiday		14 votes (1%)
I’d be relieved, giving cash is so much easier and less hassle		227 votes (16%)
Cash is the best gift - practical so they can get what they want		552 votes (40%)

                   20,663 votes received.

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